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Guest blog: Why don’t we (actually) change the world?

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Sara Price

Sara Price

Sara is a coach and mentor with over 25 years of experience in campaigning and communications. As well as her ongoing work with Pagefield, the leading independent communications agency that she co-founded in 2010, Sara is a One of Many Certified Coach, a Mastercoach and soon to be author.
Sara Price

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My vision is a world in which everyone who wants to change the world for the better is inspired and empowered to do so.

It’s a big vision. Making this vision a reality is like eating the proverbial elephant – I’ll be doing it one bite at a time and in collaboration with many others – including the amazing Founder of One of Many, Joanna Martin. The current ‘bite’ is to write a book – catchily entitled ‘How to (Actually) Change the World’. That’s a lot to deliver in 55,000 words but I’m going to give it my best shot!

As part of my research, I’ve spoken to hundreds of people all over the world about the kind of changes they want to create, and what gets in the way of them actually doing it. So if you’re on a mission to change the world right now and you’re feeling blocked; or if you are feeling increasingly called to make a difference, to make an impact on this beautiful planet of ours, but you’re not sure how to go about it – please read on, because you are not alone.

Here’s what I’ve found so far…

So…Who Wants to Change the World?

An awful lot of us want to change the world. . If you’re an active member of the BeOne Global Community on Facebook, you may have seen and perhaps completed my survey for actual and aspiring changemakers. Of the people who have filled in the survey thus far, EVERYONE wants to change the world in some way.

When asked if there was something they would like to change to make the world a better place, 47% said that there were so many things they didn’t know where to start! Another 24% had one big issue that they were truly passionate about. Everyone else felt passionate about 2 or 3 main subjects and couldn’t pick one.

How Do We Want to Change the World?

We want to change the world for other women. My survey may be slightly skewed because of where it was posted and the kinds of women who’ve completed it, but of all the issues that we are passionate about, the top three categories are:

  • Women’s issues
  • Environment
  • Education & training

In other words, the issues which matter most to us are: other women; the planet and the next generation.

Some of us are dedicating our working lives to these issues. About 12% of respondents have already set up / run or work for a social enterprise dealing with the specific issue that they are most passionate about. Another 12% are operating in the charitable sphere on their number one issue.

Many respondents wrote in comments that tackling their number one issue was the mission of their business. That’s a lot of women dedicating their working lives to making the world a better place!

Many of those who work in other fields are taking action in their personal time. Nearly 95% of us are talking to friends and family – trying to persuade them of the importance of our cause. 85% have taken to social media to make our point and demonstrate our passion. Over 80% have signed online petitions.

Are We Making Progress?

Most of us feel that we’re not making enough progress. Amongst the social entrepreneurs, charity leaders and those whose professional mission is to change the world, only 30% were satisfied with the progress they are making.

Most of us want to do more: Of those who are taking action in their personal time, a whopping 97% want to do more but are hampered by a perceived lack of time and a feeling of not knowing where to start. The same feeling that stops about 20% of us from taking any action at all.

And that is where I hope that my book will help.

It’s Not Complicated…

I understand that changing the world can seem overwhelming but here is what I believe: changing the world may be hard work but it is not actually that complicated.

I can already feel the waves of disagreement and disbelief heading my way but, I’m sticking to my guns here because I genuinely believe that in principle changing the world is not complicated. It requires only one thing: you have to make people care.

You have to make companies care enough to change their policies; or make politicians care enough to change legislation; or make individuals care enough to change their behaviour and / or their minds. You have to know who holds the power to make the change, and you have to make them care enough to do it.

In Fact, It’s Really Quite Simple…

To make people care, you need to harness the power of great communications. It’s about communicating your message to the right people at the right time in a way that feels compelling to them. That’s it.

Now, there are a lot of experts out there with a vested interest in making you think that this is difficult. The more jargon they use, the more complex they make it seem – the more valuable their expertise appears and the more you are made to feel disempowered and dependent on their expertise.

This is where I hope my book will help. I plan to show you exactly how simple great communications can be. I will walk you through how to develop a comprehensive campaign plan for your vision that makes people care enough to create change.

So at the end of the process, you’ll be equipped to make a difference. You can make people care.

You can ACTUALLY change the world.

So…How Do You Want to Change the World?

This is a community full of changemakers and women with huge visions for how to change the world for the better.

So tell me, what ONE thing would you change about the world if you could wave a magic wand? What causes are you passionate about, and what change are you already creating through your life and work?

Share in the comments below, and let’s support each other to create the change we want to see.

And, if you have a moment, I’d be grateful if you would take part in my survey. Tell me how you want to change the world and how I can help you.

And as a great big thank you for doing so, I’m offering one participant the chance to win a 2-hour PR and communications brainstorm with a leading London PR agency, Pagefield (the one I co-founded!). Just click the link below to take the survey and be in with a chance of winning:

https://www.surveymonkey.co.uk/r/HowToActuallyChangetheWorld

About Sara Price

The Knitting, Baby-whispering Karaoke queen!

Sara is a coach and mentor with over 25 years of experience in campaigning and communications. As well as her ongoing work with Pagefield, the leading independent communications agency that she co-founded in 2010, Sara is a One of Many Certified Coach, a Mastercoach and soon to be author!

Sara began her career in Parliament developing an in-depth understanding of the corridors of power. She then moved on to work as a political advisor to UNICEF where she witnessed the power of individuals and organisations to effect change on a global scale. She sat on the UK Board of one of the world’s largest PR agencies, H&K Strategies, and in 2010 she co-founded Pagefield.

Over the course of her career, she has developed communications programmes for some of the biggest brands in the world from Kelloggs to EDF Energy; advised organisations as diverse as Allied Bakeries and Variety, the Children’s Charity; and co-created multi-national campaigns for Global Peace Ambassador Prem Rawat.

Sara’s newest venture – How to Actually Change the World – is in development right now. If you’d like to help to shape the whole programme and be on the list to hear more, please sign up by emailing sara@renaissance-life.co

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Grass-roots women who inspire – Karen’s Story

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Joanna Martin

Founder: One of many. Author. Ex-doctor. Entrepreneur. Sister. Sometime Actor. Baby Wrangler. Personal Chef. Mother.

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Karen’s Story – Finding Purpose and Fulfillment

‘You have so much potential, follow your dreams and create the life you want!’

This had been said to me many times but for some reason it never meant anything. Probably because I never felt I had any clarity and certainly no direction or focus for my life. Depression had taken residence and my life had come to a grinding halt.

This was how I was feeling. I was unemployed and lacking any clarity, direction or focus. I didn’t know who I was, what I wanted to do or what I stood for. I wasn’t despondent but I certainly wasn’t moving and I felt like an octopus with tentacles out feeling for opportunities but grappling around in the dark to no avail.

I had read a lot about ‘creating your lifestyle’ but for me my need was more fundamental than that, more basic. I simply wanted to find a life. I wanted to experience more meaning in my life and a deeper sense of fulfilment.

I’d been studying women’s issues for a few years and I had a really strong sense that international women’s day was important and should be honoured. If you don’t know, International Women’s Day (IWD) is celebrated on March 8th and dates back over 100 years, since the time of the Suffragette’s. It’s a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women and also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity (the measurement of gender equality).

The global movement encourages women to celebrate the day locally. After attending my second International Women’s Day event in Swindon I couldn’t help but feel a little bit disappointed. It just didn’t have the energy that I thought it could have.

‘What was it really about? What was the point of us all coming together?’ I asked myself.

There was a deep sense within me that this was a truly important day and that women’s progression over the years should be celebrated and honoured but the gathering just felt a bit off.

I happened to find myself in conversation with a group of women, one of whom was the main organiser. Me and my big mouth, I couldn’t help but ask

“What do you want to do this for?”

My question was met with stunned silence and it gradually became obvious that the organisers had other motives in mind. I left the gathering without giving it a second thought but the next year I got approached to organise it. I said no because I didn’t feel equipped to do it.

Shortly afterwards I was at a One of many event talking with Jo Martin (the founder) about what I might do for my project. This was part of the Lead the Change Program I was doing with her.

I had the awareness that I wasn’t in tune with what I wanted to do but I was terrified of letting myself go.

“What would you like to do?” She asked me.

“I don’t know,” I shrugged, “I think I’d quite like to run a not for profit that transformed the lives of women and girls. Something that created more equality.”

“Actually,” I continued, “I’ve been asked to organise the next International Women’s Day in Swindon but I said no.”

Jo gave me a quizzical look, smiled and said “Why don’t you do it. Do it for fun.”

Do it for fun!

On returning to Swindon I set about organising the event. With only 6 weeks until the day we were on a super tight timescale. I had been learning about the natural gifts and power of women with Jo and I wanted to use my feminine energy to create this event. I have to confess though, I didn’t do very well with that. Instead I used every ounce of Superwoman to meet the deadlines and make the day a success. I kept reminding myself that this was fun but to be honest sometimes I was telling myself this through gritted teeth.

The trouble is Superwoman, the one who is spinning all plates, taking responsibility for everything, doing the doing and all the organising, driving and pushing to make things happen was not me in my feminine. Instead it was me drawing on my masculine energy and true to pattern I ended up burned out.

The event was a great success, however, with over 600 women joining us but I was left exhausted. I had wanted to learn about feminine energy and my natural gifts as a woman. But I had done it all with masculine energy. I was trying to put what I was learning into practice but I was instead living out old habits.

In 2016 I decided to do it differently. I’d been on a wonderful year of personal growth and decided I would bring everything I’d learned, all my One of many language, tools and techniques.

A lightbulb moment

In the past I have always been very literal, with a mind-set of ‘Tell me what to do and I’ll do it.’ But thanks to being part of the One of many community I had a huge light bulb moment that completely changed the way I approached life.

I love photography and what makes me most passionate about it is I just want people to feel really good about themselves. I felt honoured to be invited to photograph our Lead the Change group and through them all simply allowing me to be myself, it suddenly dawned on me that I could shape the way my world looked. Or more specifically I could shape IWD Swindon into what I saw it could be.

I feel truly blessed to be part of an incredible support network like this. I couldn’t have done what I’ve done without these amazing women. They were there for every wobble that I had and kept me buoyant.

We doubled our numbers in 2016

I decided that in 2016 I was going to learn to collaborate. I created a community group to run the event which consisted of 3 of us and a brand for us to become known for.

The 2016 gathering was a huge success with over 1200 women joining with us on that day. Our brand values of Inspire, Educate and Elevate really seemed to capture women’s hearts and speak to them. Personally, I focused on learning to communicate well. I set about learning about different personality types and the sort of language they used so that I could understand and communicate more clearly with my team and our supporters.

Our 2017 event was also a great success and IWD Swindon continues to go from strength to strength. I’ve learned about managing projects as we expand and how to truly empower others to be in their flow.

I’ve had to dig deep but I can honestly say I wouldn’t change a thing. Each year brings new learnings and new growth. This year I’ve stepped into Leadership. Previously I’d been denying my own leadership skills. The One of Many mission is to inspire 1 million grass roots women leaders, women who are making a difference in their locality. I feel proud and privileged to be one of those women.

I would have shied away from calling myself a leader in the past but it was somewhere inside me, lurking away just waiting to be invited out to play. This year I asked myself…

What sort of leader am I? And who am I leading?

This was another lightbulb moment for me as I realised that I hold a strong vision for IWD Swindon and holding that vision takes a lot. Holding the vision also means knowing where everyone else is at. Are we all moving in the same direction?

The One of many Women’s PowerTypes have helped me grow enormously. Learning to embody the power of The Queen has made a huge difference for me. I recall a group exercise back in 2015 practicing harnessing the energy of The Queen, I felt so uncomfortable and I couldn’t even lift my head to look up. This was a powerless place to be and I certainly could not do what I’m doing today without being able to access this part of myself.

As the one with the vision I have to keep an eye on the goal and deal with any problems that arise such as partners pulling out. It is truly wonderful to deal with these things with dignity and grace, instead of freaking out (which may have happened in the past). Now I simply see the vision then reassess and realign.

True leadership comes from being. As I am being more of the grass roots leader that I am, I witness the wonderful positive effect it has as it ripples out to others and they become empowered into their natural leadership. I love watching Helen (one of our team) blossom into her grass roots leadership. She is married to a Japanese man and is going to a global women’s summit in Japan soon.

This year I built a team of 8 people and they are all leaders in their own right. I also challenged myself to put in a grant application with the Arts Council and it was successful. We received £14.5K as well as funding from some local businesses.

It’s not in isolation that we will change the world. It’s through collaboration, community and a greater mission.

This year a film maker made a film of our 2017 event. I welled up when I saw the footage. It enabled me to actually see what it was I was trying to achieve. And it’s allowed me to really understand myself.

I’ve been battling between what’s my identity. Am I a photographer, a curator, a community activist, an organiser of events.

I realised that for now I am the face of IWD Swindon and the work we do with that is part of my purpose.

I want for all women to participate in this event in their locality. When I say all women I don’t mean every person in every house. What I mean is all backgrounds, all classes, all ethnicities. So that there is representation from all women on the day. I also want us to be thinking about girls and what they need to flourish, as well as the parents of girls. This is important so that we can break these cycles of inequality that otherwise just keep on going.

Amazing people show up all the time to help with our mission. They are all experts in what they do but feel that they want to be more on purpose than on profit.

One highly talented lady approached me recently and said she really wanted to help community groups do their thing. I said to her that there were many community groups at IWD Swindon and she should reach out to them and get involved.

Yes she replied… I am. I’m choosing IWD Swindon. You’re the group I’d love to work with. Sometimes I feel like I’m a little bit slow to catch up with how miraculous this is.

This journey has been an amazing ride, it’s bought me things that I didn’t even know I was missing.

I’m so grateful to have a better sense of myself, my purpose and the type of life I want to lead. I wish you fun on your journey!

While developing her leadership skills on her Project, Karen used her new-found confidence and direction to simultaneously launch her own business as a photographer. She is now regularly booked and doing what she loves for work, as well as making a huge community impact for International Women’s Day. Well done Karen!

Our intention is simple. To support professional women to handle the day-to-day so they can unleash the bigger impact they feel called to make in the world.

We believe real leadership is less about skill, and more about having a well of physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual strength to draw on. Every week we support thousands of grassroots leaders globally with our free articles, videos and online trainings with powerful tools and methodologies created BY women FOR women.

Become One of many women creating strong, meaningful connections in our community.

In my 14 years of mentoring and coaching business owners, executives and entrepreneurs there is one question that comes up time and again.

From start up to multi-million dollar business, in times of transition the most common questions is …

Should I start my own business or get a job?

I’ve created a free report to help you answer this question. So if you feel a greater purpose calling you but don’t know where to start this free report can help you gain clarity on the right business vehicle for you.

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Be the Woman You Were Born to Be

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Joanna Martin

Founder: One of many. Author. Ex-doctor. Entrepreneur. Sister. Sometime Actor. Baby Wrangler. Personal Chef. Mother.

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You want to make a difference.
You want to be valued.
You want to leave a legacy.
You want to show your children that life can be amazing.

BUT…

You’re feeling lost and don’t know which direction to take.

Do you have this nagging sense that there is something more you should be doing with your life? If you do you’re far from alone.

Life is urging us as women towards greater things.

You know there is more of you to be expressed. You feel that nagging tension inside. A subtle knowing that there is something more that you should do and share. You know that there is more to life. But you don’t know which direction to take or where to start.

Phew! Frustrating isn’t it. But take a deep breath and relax. I hear you sister and you’re in the right place. I’m going to share 4 easy things that you can do to get yourself inspired and moving.

Life’s too short to waste another minute on something that isn’t making your heart sing. And the good news is the time of work being a soul destroying chore that leaves you feeling empty and undervalued at the end of the day is a thing of the past.

We’re in a brand new time where your work becomes far more than an exchange of time for money. We’re in a time where your work can be a hugely rewarding experience. Everything changes when you love your career. Sounds dramatic but it’s true. Imagine it…it’s more than work, more than a career even, it’s your life’s mission.

Everyone has been made for some particular work, and the desire
for that work has been put in every heart. Rumi

If you have that nagging feeling that you’re supposed to do something bigger, something bolder, something greater with your life then read on because I’m going to share with you how you can escape the frustration and start making it happen.

Firstly get grateful for that inner nagging tension.

I know it’s uncomfortable and can sometimes make you feel like you’re going insane. Your mind is in a perpetual whirr frantically searching for what you should do. But fret no longer. Instead rest assured that this inner knowing comes to us all in different ways when we’re expanding into greater possibilities. It’s exciting, a true gift.

I know it can leave you feeling completely lost and wondering ‘What am I supposed to do?’ Annoying isn’t it. I don’t know about you but I’m impatient, so waiting for things to unravel can be super challenging. What I’ve discovered though is this inner tension is trying to guide me. And it’s trying to guide you to.

Once you encounter it, it can never be put back in its box. You can try but it will still be there in the background, it’s a persistent little blighter. It might appear to go quiet for a little while but then suddenly wham it’s back again. It just doesn’t go away.

You see for women meaning is everything, without it our motivation evaporates. Yet for many women finding purpose is the biggest challenge that they face when it comes to career and work. It’s very easy to look out at the world we live in and become disillusioned. Many women fritter their lives away in meaningless or mediocre work that drains them.

Some women are fortunate enough to find something meaningful. But they make compromises on how much they are willing to make, so struggle to make ends meet and become drained.

Imagine waking without an alarm and feeling a burst of joy that it’s a brand new day. The sheets are soft on your skin and you feel refreshed and energised. Brilliant ideas are popping into your head and you get up to write them down. You love this feeling of knowing you are in exactly the right place at the right time. Doing something you absolutely love, making a positive difference to others and being generously financially rewarded in the process.

It’s a BIG difference to meeting the new day with a groan and groping for the alarm to hit the snooze button.

Once you know what your purpose is and you start living it, everything changes. Once you’re truly on purpose that’s when miracles start to become a regular feature in your life.

Don’t fall into the common trap

Many people are waiting for that blaze of light. That mind-blowing clarity where they see a vision for their purpose and mission in techno-colour. That life altering never to be forgotten moment when they know beyond a shadow of a doubt exactly what they are supposed to do with their life.

Sounds great doesn’t it but don’t wait for it. Yes it happens to the occasional person but it’s not usual. It’s a bit like your friends at school who knew exactly what they wanted to do when they grew up. Few and far between right? I think I had one friend like that.

I know that my journey to leading One of Many, this mission to inspire 1 million grass-roots women leaders, has been a journey of unravelling. As I have put one foot in front of the other this mission has gradually revealed itself. And it’s the same for you. You just need to start putting one foot in front of the other.

We are living in a truly exciting and unique time on the planet. In our new paradigm world, there has never has been a greater time for crafting a truly unique career path that harnesses your greatest gifts and provides the income you need to live a truly fulfilled life.

Our belief is when your life’s work is a true expression of your authentic self, work is a true joy.

Now is YOUR time.

Perhaps you, like many women, know you have lots more to give but you just haven’t fully embraced it yet.

This is your birth right. It’s not a question of whether you deserve it or whether you’re good enough. Sadly it’s incredibly common for women to be lacking in confidence and unconsciously holding themselves back.

Are you unconsciously saying no?

Secondly get yourself a really nice journal and commit to writing in it every day. Carve out some time for you to connect with your hearts desires. You can’t create or allow yourself to receive your truly juicy life if you are unconsciously saying no to it.

You need to start saying yes to yourself. Yes to all the good things that life has planned for you. Yes to experiencing great joy, satisfaction and fulfillment.

In order for you to escape that nagging tension that’s slowly driving you nuts you need to start opening your mind. Start allowing yourself to hear and receive that inner guidance that’s there for you.

“Do something today that your future self will thank you for.”  Sean Patrick Flanery

A major problems when we feel lost is we do nothing. But this inertia further compounds the problem. Instead you need to start to take some action because taking a step one direction will begin to create some movement in your life.

Be bold right now and make a decision now that you’re going to do something to quiet that inner niggle. You’re going to discover its secrets. You’re too valuable to keep hiding away. Go and buy yourself a really nice journal.

I do love yummy stationery.

You might like to write a little statement to yourself in the front of your lovely new journal…

I am dedicated to discovering my destiny. My meaningful path to success. I open my mind and heart to hear the divine guiding wisdom that is available for me. I commit to creating special time for myself each day where I will allow myself to dream and connect with my hearts desires.

Then sign and date it. Something powerful happens when you write things down.

Why make time for yourself?

“Investing in yourself is the best investment you will ever make. It will not only improve your life, it will improve the lives of all those around you.” Robin S. Sharma

Thirdly don’t go it alone. Women are wired for connection. When we feel connected we flourish and thrive. So come and join our vibrant One of Many community and hang out with a group of supportive, inspiring and courageous women.

Women who you can share your dreams and aspirations with. Women who will cheer you on and hold your hand when you wobble. Wobbles are bound to happen as you open up to the wonder that life has to offer you.

And finally…

Be bold. Start taking some action that comes from the inspiration that you receive.

When I was a medical doctor I realised that we all have a time limit. We live our lives like we don’t but we all do. I asked myself if I knew what mine was would I continue to be a doctor.

I was a great doctor. The nurses and patients loved me. I was smart. I was making a positive difference but…

it wasn’t my difference. Do you know what I mean?

The answer was absolutely no. So that night I made a decision. The decision was to do what felt like me. It was a bit of an aha moment as I realised I wanted to go to drama school. Acting had always been a hobby of mine. I had dreams of being a professional actress but I’d never believed in myself enough to give it a crack.

I got into a great acting school, was loving it and having fun. But I didn’t feel like I was making my difference. That was the time I went to my very first personal development seminar. As I saw the guy on the stage telling stories and facilitating change I thought that’s it. That’s what I want to do. I made a committed decision and I ploughed everything I had into developing myself to be a life coach. I did this despite the little negative voices in my head. “You can’t do that. You’re too young. Who is going to pay you?” You know the ones.

I developed a fairly successful life coaching business by just doing what my mentor told me. This led to me working for a coaching business and travelling the globe leading training seminars of up to 3000 people at a time. But I got burned out.

After recuperating I launched a speaker business and took it to 7 figures in 12 months but again got burned out.

When my son James was born I was breast feeding him in a darkened room. He was so precious and that quote from the Dalai Lama popped into my head. “The world will be saved by the western women.” I realised he was talking about me. I had to do something to make the world a better place for my son. The world would not be changed by political women leaders but by all women. By me and my sister. By you.

This was a huge wakeup call for me and that’s when One of many™ was born. I knew I had to do something for women.

I share because I want you to see that discovering your destiny in an on-going unfolding. It’s only when you’ve finished that you will be able to connect the dots. You can’t connect them in the beginning.

Here’s a reminder of those 4 easy steps…

  1. Get grateful for that inner nagging
  2. Make time to write in your journal daily
  3. Connect with other supportive women
  4. Be bold and follow your inspired action

I’d love to know what you’re inspired to do. Leave a comment and let us know.

If you’re would love to delve deeper to find the key to unlocking your true career fulfilment our BeFulfilled event is for you.

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A two-day retreat to uncover your greatest contribution, and find clarity in your career and finances.

This workshop is designed expressly to help you discover and define your inherent value, to express it, and be rewarded for it.

Book a call with Maria our lovely customer services manager to see if it’s a fit for you.

Our intention is simple. To support professional women to handle the day-to-day so they can unleash the bigger impact they feel called to make in the world.

We believe real leadership is less about skill, and more about having a well of physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual strength to draw on. Every week we support thousands of grassroots leaders globally with our free articles, videos and online trainings with powerful tools and methodologies created BY women FOR women.

Become One of many women creating strong, meaningful connections in our community.

 

 

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The Soft Power Revolution

By

Joanna Martin

Founder: One of many. Author. Ex-doctor. Entrepreneur. Sister. Sometime Actor. Baby Wrangler. Personal Chef. Mother.

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Last week saw us hosting our inaugural One of many™ Women’s Coach Training. It was truly a phenomenal week of transformation.

I have to say I am both thrilled and relieved to have accomplished this training at 37 weeks pregnant! And it struck me as a time of giving birth to two babies at the moment. Our own little Pumpkin, who has been upgraded from Peanut in the last month (can you see why from the picture?) and our One of many baby is also ready to be taken out further into the world.

This first coaching cohort are really fired up to share what they’ve been learning about Soft Power with other women and the world. But what is this thing called Soft Power? Where does it come from? Why do we use the term and what does it mean?

The state of women: bad news

According to UK statistics:

  • 29% of us are going to be treated for a mental health condition in our life compared to 17% of men
  • One in four of us are going to be diagnosed with depression compared with one in ten men1
  • We’re twice as likely to suffer with anxiety2
  • We’re 60% more likely to suffer job stress and burnout than men
  • 42% of our marriages are ending in divorce3
  • 40% of us are going to have cancer at some time in our life4
  • A sixth of couples have difficulty conceiving
  • The gender pay gap, at time of writing, is the highest that it’s been in 20 years5
  • We are less happy as a gender than we were 40 years ago6

Indeed, since 1972 more than 6 different studies of millions of people around the world have shown that women’s overall level of happiness has dropped both relative to where they were 40 years ago, and relative to men. Now, this is regardless of whether they have kids, how many kids they have, how much money they make, how healthy they are, what job they hold, whether they’re married, single, divorced, how old they are or what race they are. With the slight exception of African-American women who are slightly happier than they were 40 years ago, but still less happy than their men.

So, we’re getting less happy, even though we find ourselves at a time when we have more access to opportunity and more access to power than we’ve ever had.

So, how does a woman who wants to step up and make her highest contribution in the world and step up to leadership do that in a way which still allows her to be happy and healthy?

The state of women: good news

The good news for we women is that we’ve got amazing opportunities right now.

  • 80% of the newly self-employed since 2008 are women7
  • According to CNN women are the largest economic force in the world – not China or India
  • There’s a huge calling for more women on boards, in parliament, in leadership8
  • The Dalai Lama even said “the world will be saved by the Western woman”9

So, on one hand there’s a calling for us to step up and lead.  Many of us feel in our hearts that that’s the path and our contribution that we need to make. But on the other hand, we’re burning out, we’re sick, we’re infertile and we’re unhappy. What’s the problem here?

The One of many™ hypothesis

We propose that the power that it took to get us where we are, to create amazing opportunities, to compete and be taken seriously as a force in the world; is not the kind of power that is going to be able to sustain us here.

We need a new kind of power to be the woman that the world needs us to be.

Understanding Women’s Power

Stereotypically, there’s two kind of types of power that we’re most aware of right now.

One is, the bossy woman; she wears the trousers, the dominating, effectively very masculine Superwoman. But, she gets some stuff done.

The other powerful kind of woman that we recognise with is the woman who use sex as power. Think of our pop stars and our movie stars using that kind of sexy power.

They’re the two types of power that we tend to see most commonly in women trying to be “powerful”. And that’s because of the cultural paradigm that we live in. They’re the only two types of power that we’ve really given any credit to and, unfortunately, we’re playing with two keys on the piano, neither of which are particularly useful. But we’re in a masculine paradigm.

There is enlightening research by Hofstede’s into the relative masculinity of different cultures.  Highly masculine cultures display a preference in society for achievement, heroism, assertiveness and material rewards for success. Society at large is more competitive. Its opposite, femininity, stands for a preference for cooperation, modesty, caring for the weak and quality of life. Society at large is more consensus-oriented. In the business context Masculinity versus Femininity is sometimes also related to as “tough versus tender” cultures.10 This can lead to women acting like Superwomen to juggle all they have to do. Sound familiar?

What paradigm did you grow up in? Has it been more masculine or has it been more feminine?

Note also that the workplace itself though, is also another masculine paradigm. The domain of commerce and economics, since its inception many thousands of years ago, has been predominately dominated by men. It’s only really been very recently that we’ve seen anywhere near equality in representation inside of commerce. And there are some industries where it is still nowhere near equal. Especially in upper level management and board level, where we’re seeing still nowhere near equality of representation.

So, many of us live in countries that are embedded in a masculine paradigm. Then, we’re operating, as professional women in workplaces with unconscious bias towards the masculine. And then, many of us have individual experiences growing up that program us even further, to take on the masculine Superwoman archetype.

What’s the solution?

Our suggestion here at One of many™ is that instead of operating, always, in this masculine way we need to step into a different kind of power.

And we call that Soft Power. It’s no less powerful than masculine power. It’s just different.

Let’s define soft: “agreeable, calm, gentle, yielding”.

Now watch your response to this.  Note that any master of martial arts, will know that the greatest way to get power from your opponent is to absorb the impact of their attack and turn that energy back against them. So, being yielding is sometimes a really powerful thing to do; not always fight, fight, fight.

Power: etymology: the middle English, which is “to be able.”

It’s not about dominion over, it’s just about an ability to do anything.

How do we, as women, start to be more able using a different kind of power?

We find central to it is the collaboration of many and not just the pursuit of one.

Let’s look at another example so that you understand this.  If you were to buy a hairdryer in the USA, it is designed to use the voltage 110 volts. Your US hairdryer works perfectly efficiently on 110V.

If you were to take that hair dryer to the UK where the voltage coming out of the wall is 230 volts and plug it in you would short it out. However, if you were to plug in a British hair dryer into the sockets in the UK, it works with perfect efficiency.

What’s the difference? Is 230 V better than 110 V?

Is 110 V better than 230 V?

I don’t know and frankly it doesn’t really matter.

In just the same way, masculine energy isn’t better than feminine energy, what we would call Soft Power. And feminine is not better than masculine. It’s simply a question of what’s the right energy, the right voltage for your machinery.

Our bodies are designed to utilise more feminine energy than the average Western woman runs through her. We have breasts, a uterus, a different hormonal make up.  Our biology is different to men. Men look different to women, they have a different biological make up.

Does biology impact psychology?  Probably, but that’s not the point. What is relevant is that there are very many women burning out because we’re plugged into the wrong voltage.

If you’re living in masculine energy, with aggression, drive, that adrenaline fueled way of being will soon burn you out. Your marriage isn’t going to last long, your relationships are not going to last long and your health is not going to last long because your machinery is not designed to operate on that voltage.

So, what we invite you to explore- and that’s all we ask- is the possibility that there is a power that is more suited for you.

And it’s not about one or the other. Masculine or feminine all the time.

It’s about harmony.

Most of us ignore the feminine though because we think it is weak.

What are your thoughts when I use the word “feminine”? Let me know in the comments below.

At One of many™ we work with 5 Women’s PowerTypes™, all feminine, all strong:

  • Warrioress
  • Lover
  • Mother
  • Queen
  • Sorceress

What if we were to come from this place of Soft Power? What if we were able flow between masculine and feminine energy as required?

Sometimes you need nothing but a good bit of masculine energy to push through and churn out that project that needs completing by Friday afternoon. But, then you want to be able to go into your Soft Power when you get home to be with your family and your spouse because they’re not going to want to hang out with somebody who’s still pushing through and in overdrive.

It’s about harmony.

So, for many of us, we need to swing the pendulum back the other way. We need to learn to trust what we call our Soft Power. We need to re-discover the power in our softness and that is the journey that we’re all on here together.

If this blog resonates with you and you’d like to discover how you can use cutting edge, proven tools and techniques designed for the unique personal and professional growth of women then click here to find out more about our Coaching Certification.

Our intention is simple. To support professional women to handle the day-to-day so they can unleash the bigger impact they feel called to make in the world.

We believe real leadership is less about skill, and more about having a well of physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual strength to draw on. Every week we support thousands of grassroots leaders globally with our free articles, videos and online trainings with powerful tools and methodologies created BY women FOR women.

Become One of many women creating strong, meaningful connections in our community.

References:

  1. National Institute For Clinical Excellence, 2003
  2. The Office for National Statistics Psychiatric Morbidity report, 2001
  3. http://webarchive.nationalarchives.gov.uk/20160105160709/http://www.ons.gov.uk/ons/rel/vsob1/divorces-in-england-and-wales/2011/sty-what-percentage-of-marriages-end-in-divorce.html
  4. http://www.cancerresearchuk.org
  5. Research by the Institute for Fiscal Studies. https://www.ft.com/content/94e2e7b8-6874-11e6-ae5b-a7cc5dd5a28c
  6. The Paradox of declining female happiness by Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers 2009 http://www.nber.org/papers/w14969.pdf
  7. http://www.prowess.org.uk/facts
  8. https://www.theguardian.com/society/2014/mar/05/not-enough-women-highest-levels-leadership
  9. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=suojNzKZ8ew
  10. https://geert-hofstede.com/national-culture.html
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How to change the world without sacrificing your happiness

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Joanna Martin

Founder: One of many. Author. Ex-doctor. Entrepreneur. Sister. Sometime Actor. Baby Wrangler. Personal Chef. Mother.

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I’m sure you’ve come across or known at least one person who had great intentions to change the world for the better … but they were so caught up in their principles that they came across as off-putting.

And as someone who also wants to change the world, even if you’d never admit it, it kind of makes you think,

“I want to change the world … but I don’t want to become someone like that!”

Let’s get this clear right from the start: you do not have to become a raging fanatic to change the world. (In fact, you probably won’t get very far if you do).

But you won’t be “normal”.

What’s normal anyway?

Larry Smith, an economist, has a fantastic TED talk in which he tells an auditorium of students why they will fail to have a great career. There are lots of reasons, but a large part of it comes down to choosing to be “normal”.

“Normal” is to work your job, take your wage, love your family, enjoying a hobby or two, and do pretty much nothing else. And if you’re reading this blog and thinking about changing the world, I can guess that “normal” isn’t enough for you.

But equally, you don’t have to take a vow of poverty, become obsessive, or go around badgering everyone who isn’t working as hard as you to change the world.

It is completely possible to change the world and live a good, happy life yourself.

I think a lot of us have been taught this idea that if we really want to change the world, we need to make a huge sacrifice, do something we “should” do but actually really hate, or that we have to become consumed by it, to the exclusion of living the rest of our lives.

Don’t get me wrong — if you want to pack up, move across the world, and work for a charity then by all means do it! That’s fantastic if that’s what your calling is. But don’t feel like you can’t make an impact on the world if you don’t do that.

My two biggest pieces of advice for doing this:

1. Define your realm

OK, so what do I mean by this? By defining your realm, I mean choosing the areas that you want to make a difference in. This is key, because if you try to make an impact on everything, you’re not going to make much of an impact on anything.

Deliberately limiting your realm also keeps you from becoming burned out. I know this can be hard for a lot of people (especially women, who tend to feel like we want to take care of everything), but you’ve got to preserve your energy so that you can make the most impact on those areas you do choose to work in.

2. Focus your energy on your actions, not others.

It’s also critical that you focus your energy on yourself first! By this, I mean that you’ve got to take care of yourself (because after all, you can’t help anyone if you don’t have the energy, money, or time to live). Ultimately, the only person’s actions that you can change are your own.

So start by getting your little energy ecosystem sustainable.  Are you nurturing and nourishing yourself, as you pour your energy into your businesses or causes?

If you are super passionate but find yourself struggling with your energy levels and feeling over stretched then join me for this webinar which will show you how to find an additional 5 hours a week (minimum!) so you can do what you feel called to do.

The second element of this piece is how you go about your “world-changing”.

A lot of people tend to focus on getting other people to change, and when that doesn’t happen the way they hope it would, they either get resentful, or they get aggressive.  That’s where you get the people who go around making other people feel guilty or badgering them about their beliefs — which often leads to the exact opposite result they were hoping for!

It’s about living knowing that every tiny action you take, or inspire, could be the one that makes THE difference… and simultaneously laughing at yourself for thinking anything tiny little you could do could make ANY difference.  It’s about big ambitions, and taking yourself and others lightly.

So focus on yourself and your actions first, and set an example that’s so attractive that people want to step up.

And now for the fun bit: since you’re reading this post, it’s a good bet that you actually do want to change the world. So tell me, what are you going to do? Let’s share and support each other in the comments below!

Our intention is simple. To support professional women to handle the day-to-day so they can unleash the bigger impact they feel called to make in the world.

We believe real leadership is less about skill, and more about having a well of physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual strength to draw on. Every week we support thousands of grassroots leaders globally with our free articles, videos and online trainings with powerful tools and methodologies created BY women FOR women.

Become One of many women creating strong, meaningful connections in our community.

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Has the world gone mad? You are the solution to these crazy times!

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Joanna Martin

Founder: One of many. Author. Ex-doctor. Entrepreneur. Sister. Sometime Actor. Baby Wrangler. Personal Chef. Mother.

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I really think the world is going mad. It feels like our future, the destiny of our children is being altered dramatically every other week right now.

I’m writing this as I fly home to the UK from a holiday in Australia with my family.  And everywhere I turn the world feels uncertain.

What with the aftermath of the Brexit vote in the UK; an incredibly uncertain election result in Australia (with some very scary candidates getting in); a head to head in the USA between potentially the first female US president and possibly the most obnoxious man on the planet… the ground is definitely shifting.

Now I’m a scientific gal at heart (being a doctor and all that); but I’ve been reading and talking to a lot of spiritual types lately who tell me that the cause of this global insanity is too much “masculine” for too long.  Too much focus on competition, individualism, achievement, profit, and power without an appropriate context.

Whether you believe that or not, it just seems to make sense to me that what the world needs now is more women making important decisions! In fact, we need more femininity in all our leaders.  More focus on collaboration, connection, growth for the good of all.

But the problem is we women don’t trust our own femininity.

We see it as weak.  A place where nothing gets done.  Frilly and silly and soppy.  I understand.  I did for most of my life.  That was until I realized they call it “Mother Nature” for a reason.  And she’s the most powerful ‘entity’ I know.

Perhaps it’s time for us to take a leaf out of her book and OWN our power as women.  The fertile, destructive, compassionate, nurturing, collaborative power we have at our core.

Because when we can own it- we can trust it.  And when we trust it, the world will trust it.  And then we can change this crazy world we live in.

I’m an action taker. I’m watching my son play on the seat next to me while I type this and I can’t help but imagine him saying to me in 30 years – “Mum, when it looked like it was going to hell in a handbasket, what did you do?”  I truly hope I can say to him “I had a vision for this world we see now buddy- with love, and hope and balance and equality- and I asked some other amazing women to join me on the path, and we sowed the seeds for the global shift we’re now enjoying.”

I have a huge mission here with One of many.

I’m committed to unleashing the bold, grassroots leadership of 1 million women internationally because I believe that this new world paradigm of feminine leadership will arise when we reach a critical tipping point, and 1 million women all over the world should do it! I want to equip these women with the tools to get out of “Superwoman Mode” and fall in love with their Soft Power; to trust their feminine energy; and to succeed in ways they’d never imagined possible.

Perhaps, like me, you’ve been feeling something similar.  A real awareness that the future of our very existence lies in the hands of the empowerment (perhaps re-powerment) of women.

Perhaps, like me, you find yourself working closely with women in your work and as a manager, coach, consultant or trainer and you want to be a part of the solution in these uncertain times.

That’s why I am running a free webinar next week called

 “Catalysing the Evolution of Women:
How to Unleash the Power of Your Team, Your Clients and Yourself.”

on Wednesday 20th July at 8pm London time
(That’s 3pm New York, 5am AEST on Thurs)

If you work with women, or want to work with women, join me to discover:

  • The #1 missing link in most  personal development methodologies which often leads to changes “not sticking” for women (after all most effectiveness, leadership and personal growth methodologies were created by men, for a male paradigm).
  • The Superwoman myth, and how bigger, better, faster, more is causing an epidemic of dissatisfaction from women globally.
  • The 3 common disempowering archetypes that prevent women from being effective, and how to avoid them.
  • The 5 Women’s PowerTypes(TM) and how they can be used in your coaching, consulting and management to bring the best out in the women you work with (and yourself)
  • How you can become a One of ManyCertified Women’s Coach and use our tools, techniques, templates and brand new profiling tools to help women more effectively and joyfully than ever before.

I’d love to work with you to empower a million women to step into their leadership so we can make this world a sustainable and loving place.

If you know your work is part of the solution, join me and see if we have synergy!

Click here to join me for “Catalysing the Evolution of Women“

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How To Change The World

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Joanna Martin

Founder: One of many. Author. Ex-doctor. Entrepreneur. Sister. Sometime Actor. Baby Wrangler. Personal Chef. Mother.

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Recently we invited you to step-up, speak up and be One of Many women with ideas on how, together, we can create the change we want to see in the world.

We had a huge attendance on our webinar, where we opened the lid on possibility.

We delved into topics such as:

  • Why the Dalai Lama said “The World Will Be Saved By the Western Woman”
  • What small steps you can take today (and get started)
  • The 3 misconceptions women have about leadership that stop them from self-actualising
  • What is feminine leadership and why is it vital for a sustainable future?

Loads of our community contributed some incredible ideas, questions and solutions.

If you missed it, take a listen, it’s about 1.5 hours of gold.

Don’t forget to get involved in the conversation, by entering your comments below. Create and contribute to the community you need to get you out of the everyday, and into that “something bigger”. We welcome your views, opinions and questions!

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The Western Woman Will Save The World

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“The Western Woman will save the world” . . . said the Dalai Llama.

. . . mmm, are we talking about the same woman? The one who just spend 20 minutes ransacking the house for her mobile phone while she was talking on it?

<<< so, just so we are on the same page… this lady? searching for phone

Around the world right now intelligent, capable women are sensing that something is afoot.

There’s a shift occurring, slowly, imperceptibly, but undeniably.

We, and you, are at the centre of it. Women.

In the corporate world we’re seeing a huge calling for “More Women on Boards”.

In the small business space, women account for 17% of all business owners in the UK. Even more importantly the gender gap is narrowing hugely.  Indeed in the UK between 2008-2011 women accounted for 80% of the newly self-employed.

If Warren Buffet & His Holiness The Dalai Lama Say So, It Must Be True!

This shifting of the balance of power is occurring not only in the business world,  but echoed among spiritual communities too. His Holiness The Dalai Lama proclaimed at the Vancouver Peace summit, “The Western Woman Will Save The World”

Even the world’s richest investor, Warren Buffet, says that women in leadership are the key to rectifying the economic crises we face.

Even yesterday we saw “that Harry Potter Girl” as she called herself

emma watson(aka Emma Watson) get major traction throughout the world after the UN launch of the #HeForShe campaign for gender equality. Emma’s amazing speech brings to the front line the stigma associated with the word “feminism”,  and calls out to “inadvertent feminists” to stand-up, particularly men. (By the way, we completely agree and we think the word “femininity” suffers similar misconception) for different reasons – but that’s a story for another day).

Regardless where you stand in the “feminist” debate, around the world, across all areas of life women are coming to the fore.

If you instinctively know this, but are not sure what to do next –then this is the place for you.

But then there’s that other side to being a woman

The side that feels like we’ve never quite got it together.  With the demands of the 10am meeting, the school run, the birthday lunch, the merger and last night’s argument to deal with… who has time to find their mobile phone, let alone step up and help redefine feminism.

We are caught in a place where we are feeling called to give more, but with no spare time to give it.

A desire to make a difference, but a dearth of energy with which to make it

We get focused on the little things, and lose sight of the big things that really matter.

Well it starts now ladies.

Enough!

We are not guilt.

We are not time-poor.

We are not battling.

We are not burnt out.

We are powerful.

And we don’t need to “grow-a-set-of-balls”, to do it

I’m not talking about aggressive, blast through barriers, power.

I’m talking about soft power.  The power that is inherently female.

We can be daughter, mother, wife, efficient colleague, family social club captain, and chief homework tutor simultaneously. We don’t need to become a military drill sergeant to achieve that.

But sometimes we do become that.

So how do we balance the demands of today, our dreams for tomorrow and a culturally in-built propensity for Making-It-Happen-Man-Style?

Is it even possible for us to manage our multiple daily roles, find time and energy for making our difference in the world, and do it all without turning into a man?

Here at One of many we think… Yes!

But it’s going to take a shift in focus, and a shift in behavior for us to create the change we want to see in the world.

It’s going to take working together in a way that feels new and sometimes uncomfortable, because of the “achievement and competition” culture we have been educated in.

It’s going to take getting straight with yourself and others about what you need, and what you can give.

So I want you to take away this thought with you today.

Ruminate on it.

Throw it out to a few of your friends…

Truly enquire within yourself:

“When was the last time you felt comfortable enough to be completely honest about your true needs, and had them met?”

My guess is if you work in the corporate world, it was probably…ummm, never.

If you run your own business and are dealing with clients, then it was probably….ummm, never.

And if you’re in a relationship, with anyone, then it MAY have been, (if you actually even know what your needs are)… ummm, when you got together (all those moons ago.)

And if you’re a mum, as well as any of those things listed above….then the answer is very likely NEVER!

Why?

Well, I’ll be sharing my ideas on why we are so scared to share our needs and ask for support in an upcoming blog post.

My thoughts are just One of many. So I’m interested in your thoughts.

You see, we believe no one woman has all the answers.  We all have our unique strengths and perspectives to share.

We see ourselves as a platform for the sharing of wisdom.  A platform that was once as simple, and informal, as the preparation of the communal meal for the tribe, an age ago. Let’s reinvigorate the community, the tribe…and we might make some magic!

It’s One of many things that happens when women get together. Funny that! [Click To Tweet]

So please; hit up our Facebook page One of Many Women, and share with us your thoughts:

“Why are we as women resistant to sharing our authentic needs, and having them met?”

We can’t wait to get to know you.

Ps. Even better, come and help us shape the world we want tomorrow, at the One Woman Conference, in November 2014 in London, see more…