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You may already know this, but things have been difficult for me recently. From logistics and planning issues to deep personal grief, it’s safe to say that the past few months have been some of the most challenging of my life.
But as tough as the last few months have been, they’ve also been some of the most blessed.
For the first time in my life, I’ve been truly, viscerally able to experience the power of the collective, that fabric of support that keeps us going through … well, everything. In case you’re not familiar with the idea, here’s how I see it.
Every one of us — you included — is a thread in this global, universal cosmos. There are threads that are aligned with you on either side of you and threads that cross your path, and the more threads you’re connected to, the more support you have.
More than a network
While I’ve talked a lot about the importance of having people around you before, this isn’t your typical “network”. I’ve always had loads of people supporting me, from my mentors to my sisters to health professionals and more, but when I’m talking about the fabric, I’m talking about something even deeper and more robust.
It took me 35 years to get it.
As a reforming masculine woman, I’ve spent over three decades doing my best to be independent. I wanted to do everything myself; I could do everything myself; I was happy to do everything myself.
While the concept of asking for help with something wasn’t beyond me, it was always just that: asking for help with something. The concept of asking for emotional or spiritual support never crossed my mind.
Now, as one of many women living in soft power, I’m having to walk this deeply spiritual path in which I do surrender and allow people to hold space for me. Because after all, what kind of person would I be if I told you to do one thing and then did something else myself? And I’ve understood that intellectually for a long time. But what these months of crisis have brought home for me is this:
I’ve had to actually surrender. To collaborate. To be held.
I’ve been so touched and amazed by the amount of support and space that people have held for me, physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually, from my professional mentors to my family to you in the One of Many community. So I’ve actually had an incredibly powerful couple of months, although they’ve been very difficult.
And now I want you to join me.
I know that you want to make a bigger difference in the world. But I also know that no single one of us can do it alone. The universe doesn’t need an individual difference to be made; it needs a huge, giant, collective difference to be made, and we can only do that together.
So my invitation to you is to ask yourself, how can you deepen your understanding of the collective?
How can you allow the universe, the fabric to support you when you most need it? The next time something happens when your normal response would be the masculine “push, push, push, solve it, get it done”, how can you let go? What would happen if you surrendered instead and let people help you for a change?
I truly hope that you’ll join me in leaning into the power of the collective — because when you do have that fabric of support, then you can truly fulfil the deepest callings of your heart.
Let’s start now. What’s one situation that you can surrender into over the course of the coming week? Tell me below in the comments!