Every now and again I hear a different version of the same advice I’ve heard a lot over the years. ‘Cut out negative people!’ ‘Don’t allow negative people to colour your life!’ ‘Surround yourself with positive people only!’.
This is all good advice. If we eliminate negative influences chances are that the life we want will unfold in a more positive direction. But what if you can’t?
What is you have a negative boss but you like your job? What if it’s your neighbour but you don’t want to move house? What if it’s your mother? These people aren’t seriously suggesting you cut out your mother. Are they?
Of course not. Yes, we need to create space for positive change but sometimes we have to do that by shifting our own mindset.
This a great chance for us to practice compassion, patience and unconditional love! Here are our three ways to get started.
DON’T GO THERE – Some people have a hard time recognising which comments are supportive and which are critical. If there’s a particular area of my life I don’t like discussing with someone I will request that we don’t discuss it at all.
BE UNDERSTANDING AND COMPASSIONATE – Everybody has their own struggles, We’re all just one of many humans trying to do the best that we can. The chances are that the people we feel are hurting us have been badly hurt themselves.
ACCEPT THEM – It’s not my job to heal them. I do not have the power to change them. If they are ever going to change they will have to do so of their own accord. The only person I am able to change is me.
So if you can’t cut negative people out of your life you can approach them from a place of love. It sounds impossible but try it. The toxic relationship will become charged with positive energy.
Life is too short to give critical and negative people the power to influence our direction. Cherish your dreams and don’t let anyone stop you or slow you down!
How do you deal with negative people? Are there some people in your life you feel you ought to cut out but can’t? Could you try changing your reaction? Let us know how you get in the comments…
Dr Joanna Martin: Founder, oneofmany.co.uk.| Author| Women’s Speaker| Entrepreneur| Ex-doctor| Loud Sister| Baby Wrangler = No professional training but do a fine job nonetheless!