Melanie’s Story – Making a Difference
If you had told me just 2 short years ago that I would be where I am today I would have laughed in your face. On the surface everything looked really good. I was married, we lived in a beautiful house, owned a successful property lettings agency business and I drove a £50k car. But underneath the surface I was in a bad place.
I was in constant pain with rheumatoid arthritis, my marriage was far from great and I was feeling really unhappy and unfulfilled. I didn’t know anything about Soft Power or living with feminine energy. My early years in the school of hard knocks had taught me that in order to deal with life I needed to grow a pair of balls and ‘man-up’.
This led to challenging relationships, divorce, rape and being diagnosed with cancer. I knew deep down I was angry but I had no idea what to do about it. I didn’t realise there was another way, a radically different approach to life.
I was lost
I lived in a constant state of fear…fear of rejection, fear of pain and fear of being hurt. It was not a good place to be but I couldn’t see a way out. My marriage was on the rocks. I was that far at the end of my tether that I told my husband, Neil, that I wanted a divorce.
Then I saw Jo Martin speaking on stage at the One Woman Conference and I just knew I wanted to find out more about One of Many and what they were teaching.
Somewhere deep inside me I knew I had more to give. I laugh because just before meeting Jo I had been standing in my living room feeling deeply unfulfilled. I looked up to the heavens and said ‘God I’ve had enough.’ (You might call it The Universe, Source, All that is, the name doesn’t matter). ‘Use me to make the biggest positive difference to as many other people’s lives as possible.’
A little word of warning, there is something in the saying be careful what you wish for.
The first major shift came for me at the BeFulfilled event where I dug deep into my values. I had never thought about my values in great detail before but it seems kind of daft now that I hadn’t. They under-pin everything and when we speak to or work with others who don’t share our values it’s really unpleasant and difficult. My values were integrity, honesty and transparency. I came away from that event not only being clear on my life values but also valuing myself.
It dawned on me that I was allowed to only work with people I liked. This was a revolutionary idea to me but one I absolutely adored. After careful consideration I decided to do a cull on my business and stop working with any landlords who did not share my values. This meant the business portfolio was reduced by 50%. What happened next though was astounding…
My business profits increased by 25%.
How remarkable is that? It meant business was back to being fun.
Helping vulnerable adults
At that same event Jo had led a powerful visioning exercise. As I relaxed and let my mind go blank I suddenly saw a really clear image of a property with a dome and 4 pillars, there was blue sky and mountains either side as I looked out of the window. Then I could see lots of people everywhere in the building and I knew they were ill. Underneath the image were the words ‘You’ll know your vision is complete when you stand on the land.’
It struck me so deeply, that once the exercise was complete I drew out what I’d seen on a piece of paper. Then I began to dismiss it as some weird woo-woo experience because I had no idea what it meant, if anything! I showed Neil, when I got home, laughing that I had no idea what it meant, then put it away in a drawer.
Connecting with my values has really opened the flood gates for me and created a deep sense of self-worth, fulfilment and real joy in my life and business. I’m a real home-bird and coming from a childhood of being battered means that personally I really value safety, home and family.
As part of the program I was on we had to do a project that benefited others. Being in the lettings agency business I set about creating homes for vulnerable adults, often from refuge. Myself and the landlords on my database buy new properties to renovate if we don’t already have one in the area required. We’ve created 19 homes so far, it’s truly amazing. We have a community team who work closely with social services and support workers to understand the person’s needs and create a home. Some of these people have hardly anything. Our community team source everything they need to create a safe home for them. We work with them so they really feel comfortable and cared for but also empowered. For example we may buy curtains but then they iron and hang the curtains. It’s truly rewarding.
I am very pleased to let you know that my marriage has transformed as well. It’s been challenging and we’ve both had some growing to do but it’s totally been worth it. Neil and I are closer now than we have ever been. I’m so grateful to Jo for teaching me how to have difficult conversations in an empowered way. I know the change in me is what has helped to save our marriage and I couldn’t have done it without all the things I learned from Jo, Annie, Susie and the One of Many Sisterhood. There is nothing like being surrounded and supported by an empowered group of women who’ve got your back.
The vision comes to life
I’ve always been in property and as part of that have regularly worked as crew on some of the home TV shows. In October 2016 I was in Spain working on a show about British people buying homes abroad. Neil had flown out to spend a couple of days with me and we were looking forward to some relaxation time when we got a call from the producer. The couple that they were meant to be filming had unfortunately had to cancel and he was calling to ask Neil and I to stand in for them.
The budget was £200,000. It was bizarre making this fake show but we went along with it until the very last house. The estate agent told us she was taking us up into the mountains, that the property was well over budget but she just wanted to show us what was possible in Spain.
As she opened the door Neil and I both stood dumbfounded. There was a dome and a window with mountain views either side. Neil nudged me and whispered that it was like my drawing. I was just thinking nah, there’s no pillars when she led us outside and lo and behold the house stood on 4 pillars. I started to shake and Neil was crying. I couldn’t believe it.
I instantly knew it was our healing sanctuary, El Santuario, and what happened next totally freaked me out. The estate agent looked at me and said “You know your visions complete when you stand on the land Melanie.” You could have knocked me down with a feather. How mind-blowing is that?
Neil was adamant that we needed to put in an offer. Suddenly this fake TV show had turned real. We were Brits who wanted to buy in Spain. I was reticent as we didn’t have the cash flow. But Neil was adamant that we NEEDED to buy it and should tell the owners what we wanted it for and put in an offer of £175,000. Pretty cheeky when it was on for £300,000.
I couldn’t see how on earth it could work out but something I’ve learned on this miraculous 2 year journey is to show up, be bold and keep putting one foot in front of the other.
We made the offer, they were moved by what we wanted to do and accepted it. They even said we could rent it for 12 months with a £10K deposit and then complete once we sold a house back in the UK. I didn’t have a spare £10K as all our money was tied up but miraculously money flooded into my bank account from some people who I had loaned money to in the past. I didn’t know they were going to pay me back and had forgotten about it. Miracle after wonderful miracle.
There’s lots more going on with El Santuario. Our plans are becoming clearer all the time. The centre will exist to support those with cancer and their families. Help is coming towards us all the time, through nursing care, donations, building works.
Not One but Two TV companies are looking to film for Channel 4 and ITV. They’ll donate their team and time to the renovation of the project. And at the One Woman Conference last November I shared my story and we received a donation of £25K from the husband of one of the women in the audience. I am so profoundly grateful.
I am becoming less freaked out by these miraculous happenings and instead relaxing more into the divine flow of life.
It’s been a phenomenal journey and I feel like a different woman. Completely in flow. It’s magical. My own health has transformed, I’ve lost 2 ½ stone and my relationship with my husband has transcended what I thought was possible. I have to pinch myself at points to believe it’s real.
I’ve learned who I am as a women, inside and out. Far from being riddled with fear, I now live with freedom and love every day. It just goes to show that when you value yourself you can turn corners.
I used to be called the ugly duckling but now I feel like a beautiful swan in the One of many pool of life.
I, like you, have so much to give and one life to give it. Don’t let fear stand in your way like I did for so long. Choose instead to live your life fully you won’t regret it.
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